Happy first of November!

Well, it's getting closer and closer to my favorite holiday....Thanksgiving!
That's when I make lots and lots of food, with pretty much no help from anyone. Although they tend to turn into vultures and fly around the kitchen, pacing and waiting for a moment when my back is turned so they can sneak a taste! I love making and eating the comfort food. I consider it a labor of love. I always end up having a kitchen window open and at least one of the ceiling fans going because of the heat and stuffiness. But the smells are so WONDerful!
Dilemna: My oldest brother wants us to go to his house for Thanksgiving. I always have it at home. A couple of years ago, I invited everyone to my house. My mother made all sorts of lame excuses as to why she couldn't come, including saying my youngest bro and I don't get along, and my oldest bro was upset that she didn't want him at her house anymore for Thanksgiving! Oh PULLEEEEZE! He's a big boy....he'd get over it! She said maybe we can do it another time. I decided I was done with trying to please my mother. Anything I cooked or baked, she wouldn't have eaten anyway! And it's been four years since she stepped foot in my house. That was only because she wanted to see the damage the fire had done! Before that, it had also been years since she'd stepped foot into my house! My husband thinks I'm being stupid, and so does my oldest son. Sure I would like to see my oldest bro and his kids. The rest, I could do without. I apparently am the black sheep of the family. (Or as my mother would say "odd".) I don't take orders from my oldest bro's wife. And she is very bossy. If I DO go, I'm bringing my knitting and parking my butt in one chair and not getting up cept to eat and use the restroom! Turnabout is fair play doncha think? That's all she ever did at my mother's house when we used to all gather there, whether it was a holiday or just visiting. Everyone tended to wait on her hand and foot! And there was NO reason for her to NOT be able to do for herself. Unless you consider her "porcelain nails" which she always used as an excuse not to open a can of pop for her kids, or tie a shoe for her kids, or do anything for anyone. She would just sit and crochet or read a book!
About a month ago, I accepted a friend request from my oldest bro's wife. I thought what the heck....I don't have to post on her wall or anything. Next thing I knew, she was asking me to add my mother to my friends list! Nope nope nope. No way in H E double hockey sticks!
I know that I will have people mad at me, including my husband, if I don't break down and agree to go. Hell he is just all about the eating! I am tempted to find a restaurant that serves Thanksgiving dinner, and go THERE instead! But then, we wouldn't have any leftovers to eat on for a week or two! And we definitely wouldn't have any if we went to my brother's house. What to do...what to do! But I do know this...I need to stick to my guns....no matter WHAT the decision! No chickening out.